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2019 Webinar 4- Di Salters: Autonomy and Homonomy

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Nov 062019

Autonomy is a clearly stated goal of TA. As practitioners we encourage that quality in our clients, students and supervisees. The counterpoint of that is the need to belong (Homonomy) which has, perhaps been given less emphasis in TA theory. This webinar will explore these two concepts and why they are equally relevant to our work.

The webinar is aimed at anyone working with people and those interested in furthering their TA learning.
1) An understanding of Autonomy and Homonomy –
3) A framework for examining the nature of these concepts
across time and cultures.(TA and Spiral Dynamics)
4) An understanding of how they might apply these
concepts to their field of work.

About Di Salters

Di has been involved with TA for more than 40 years, in therapy, training and my professions – first as a teacher and then as a psychotherapist.
Her further trainings at Metanoia and elsewhere mean that she works as an Integrative psychotherapist, drawing on TA, Jungian theory, Sandplay and Family Constellation work.

Di also enjoys teaching and sharing TA theory with a range of people, from senior TA practitioners to grassroots workers in NGOs.

Di is currently past-president of the International TA Association.

2019 Webinar 3- Sharon Kalinko: An Integration of the Enneagram into TA Theory

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Sep 042019

This webinar is an introduction to the 9 Enneagram personality types used in conjunction with the Script System in TA. This is useful for gaining a new perspective into treatment planning using the Script system as a diagnostic tool together with the Enneagram. The beauty of the Enneagram is that it helps to understand the underlying emotion governing the personality type and how this is manifested in behaviour and its outcome for the client. This enables the therapist/counsellor/coach/organisational specialist to assess the direction of the treatment process with regard to the setting in which it is used. It also helps gain an assessment of the mental health of the client and his/her ability to function in specific situations. This model can be used with individuals, couples, and teams. It is aimed at: psychologists, coaches, counsellors and organisational specialists who work with individuals on self-development, relationship issues and team coaching and counselling in any context. Participants will walk away with: 1. A new lens through which to view different personality types in terms of personal insight, relationships of all types and the optimum functioning of teams. 2. An ability to use the Script System for personal insight as well as treatment planning for the professional 3. An introductory understanding of the Enneagram Bio Sharon has been in private practice as a Counselling Psychologist specializing in TA since 1980, working with individuals, couples, groups, and families. She has been supervising and training Transactional Analysts in clinical applications since 1990 and have worked in many different contexts. My passion is personal growth and TA has always been my primary theoretical framework.

2019 Webinar 2- Keith Tudor: Diversity, A transactional analysis perspective

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Aug 252019

This webinar is about diversity from a TA perspective, and will include discussion of TA as a social psychiatry, and social psychology, and the contribution of radical psychiatry, and co-creative TA to ideas about diversity.

It is aimed at participants at all levels, though people will get more from the webinar if they have read something about radical psychiatry and co-creative TA.

Keith’s aim is that participants will
i) gain an understanding of TA as a social psychiatry and social psychology, and
ii) gain an understanding of how both radical psychiatry and co-creative TA can help us think about and appreciate diversity; and
iii) be interested to apply this in their own work.

Keith Tudor is a CTA and TSTA in the field of psychotherapy, with strong links with the other fields of application in TA. He is a professor of psychotherapy at Auckland University of Technology in Aotearoa New Zealand, with a keen interest in critical thinking, and in the interplay between culture and psychotherapy and politics and psychotherapy.

2019 Webinar 1- Sashi Chandran: Synergising Diversity

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Aug 252019

Join us as we explore synergy and diversity with Sashi in our first webinar for 2019!

Sashi presents an holistic model for creating synergy with self, other and the environment. This interactive webinar takes a closer look at diversity and relationships within a transactional analysis framework.

Nitya Gurukula is the logical outcome of Sashi Chandran’s journey of 30 years in people work as an educator, a counsellor and a coach. She has been involved in developmental activities with diverse populations like women, student and teacher groups, cancer patients and their families, industrial workers, staff and senior managers. Using Transactional Analysis with diverse populations equipped Sashi to indigenize TA to suit the Indian psyche, tradition and ethos. Started in 2006 Nitya Gurukula is based on the humanistic and philosophical traditions of Guru Nitya Chaitanya Yati (of Narayana Gurukula).Nitya Gurukula is a private trust and service provider for holistic and sustainable human empowerment and transformation. Sashi and Nitya Gurukula team are motivating and facilitating the accessing of ‘The Guru Within’. Thus ‘The Guru Within’ in ‘Creating your future’ becomes a reality for individuals, families, schools, industries, social work departments in colleges and tribal women in South India.

Sashi Chandran, MA, MBA, TSTA (E), CTA (C) is the CEO of Nitya Gurukula. NG, with the Vision of the Guru Within offers people work services including counseling and training in counseling, transactional analysis and Tai Chi as well as empowerment workshops.

TA in Practice: Kirsty Melmed

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Jul 302019

Recently. I was brought in by a large corporate brand, to facilitate team coaching sessions with a team of men of various ages, different cultural backgrounds and challenging economic circumstances. This was a new experience for me as up until now I have primarily worked with individuals and 80% of my clients are women. The objective of these sessions was to improve communication between the team and their manager.

I approached these coaching sessions as follows – each person had a chance to check in and then we decided as a group what we would like to focus our discussion on during that session. Depending on the topic, I would share a model that I felt was relevant and we would discuss the team’s experience within the framework of the model. This is how I often work with my one on one clients and the models I most commonly work with are Life Positions, Karpman’s Drama Triangle and Functional Ego States.

During our first session, as we were discussing the team’s ideas of what authentic communication looks like, one of them said to the group, “It’s like that Parent, Adult, Child thing. The way you say something will effect the way someone hears what you are saying.”

I couldn’t believe it! As it turns out, they had already been introduced to Ego States in a previous workshop with another trainer over a year ago. More than that, they had actually remembered it.

We went on to discuss what happens when two people have an interaction. I drew it on the whiteboard like this:

The team came to the conclusion that we each bring something unique to the present moment. The bit in the middle is the experience we have of being together. So if one person brings something different to the present moment it will change the quality of the overall experience. And, the more you get to know and understand someone, the more your shared experience expands.

They got really excited about this, as did I, as this spoke directly to our objective of improving their relationship with their manager. They ended that first session believing that they have a role to play in creating the quality of their relationships/communication.

During the remainder of our sessions, we explored Karpman’s Drama Triangle, Life Positions and Strokes. With each piece of TA theory, their self-awareness grew. They shared examples of how this was impacting their personal lives in a positive way. They showed a willingness to grow their sense of autonomy in a work environment too.

And, we kept coming back to the diagram above. It was incredible to me that this very simple diagram had such an enormous impact on them. I am not sure where this model came from, whether I saw it somewhere or imagined it myself. I used the same image in a post I created a year ago, when I wanted to illustrate what a co-creative style of workshop facilitation looks like.

I am so excited to continue working with this group of men as our contract has been extended. I love how my own frame of reference has expanded during our time together. I have so enjoyed sharing TA with them and seeing the enthusiasm they have shown for learning more.

It illustrates for me how truly universal TA is. I am so grateful to be able to share it with others as I work towards my CTA. I hope I continue to find new creative ways to share the concepts and invite others to feel as excited as I feel about using TA to become more autonomous.

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Introduction of new SATAA Treasurer – Kirsty Melmed

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Apr 262019

My name is Kirsty Melmed and I am a life coach who specialises in personal development, spiritual growth and relationship transformation. My mission is to empower you to live life authentically.

I first met with TA when I was 16 years old. A psychologist from New Zealand came to my high school to run a workshop called “Get Real”. It was my first encounter with the concept of personal development so it seems fitting that it included a core TA model – Karpman’s Drama Triangle.

I was immediately drawn in to the simplicity of the model and how perfectly it summed up the dynamics of my most important relationships at the time. That workshop set me on the path to becoming a coach. I completed a BA specialising in Psychological Counselling and decided I was not quite ready to join the ‘Adult’ world just yet. So I set off on a one way ticket to Europe where I spent the next five years exploring, learning and having a whole lot of fun.

During my time working for a youth tour operator, I was responsible for training and managing over 60 team members directly. My favourite part of this was the one on one sit downs I had with each person. Instead of focusing on performance management I followed my instincts and instead focussed on what they wanted to achieve and how they wanted to grow.

When I moved back to Cape Town at the end of 2014 I reflected on my time in Europe and decided that those one on one sessions were my favourite part of a pretty spectacular job. I did some research and discovered life coaching. I had no idea that what I had been doing with those young adults was exactly that. How exciting to realise my passion and purpose!

I came across Karen Pratt’s website and straight away I felt synergy. Not only was she a coach trainer but she offered training in TA. I remembered the Drama Triangle over a decade later and felt my curiosity piqued to learn more. It felt like my journey had come full circle.

Since then I have completed a TA101 and 202 as well as numerous workshops and webinars. I am currently part of the Foundation Year training group with Karen and my fellow SATAA Exco member Andrew. I am working towards a CTA in the Educational field as I love sharing my TA knowledge with others and hope to become a TSTA one day too.

As a coach, I use TA in my sessions ALL the time. It informs the way I coach and I often share the core models with my clients if it feels like it could be helpful to the discussion. I am continuously struck by how universal TA is as a language, and that people from all walks of life can overlay the concepts to their experiences with ease.

I have run workshops both privately and in schools which are based on TA theory. It blows my mind to see how relevant TA is to teachers as they navigate the dynamics of a classroom. I would love to introduce TA into the South African school system as part of the curriculum for learners and as a tool for educators. Who knows, perhaps one day I will…

On a personal level, TA has transformed my relationships with my family and my partner Garth. Over time, as I have animatedly shared the latest bit of theory over many Sunday lunches, they have become accustomed to the terms. Much to my annoyance they have even been known on occasion to point out when they notice me moaning from a ‘not ok’ space… Which of course is really a beautiful gift which I welcome. The more I learn the more I experience my script with new insight. I feel as if TA has given me the tools I need to live my own life authentically and thus practise what I teach.

Being in my thirties and only four years into my chosen career, I feel so grateful to have discovered TA so early on. The Rebellious Child in me has often felt like I am different to the people around me. In the TA community I have found a family of people who speak the same language. It feels incredible to be seen and to see others in such a real way. I can’t wait to find out what the future holds and know that my involvement with the SATAA is the next step on the journey.

For more info please find me at or on social media with the following handle @kirstymelmedlifecoach.

“Dancing in Kochi” – Karen’s reflections on the past TA Conference in India

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Oct 082018

As we got closer to the time, the anticipation of another TA conference in India, grew. The warmth and connection in past Indian conferences stands out for me – people boldly give and receive positive strokes and it creates such a wonderful sense of belonging – a theme that is important for me. The enticing conference theme of The Dance of Culture felt important for me as a South African living within such a multi-cultural society.

This time the monsoon floods added another type of dance to my experience in Kochi – a dance within myself about making decisions that would both keep us safe and allow participation in the conference; a dance of both valuing international connections and a deep valuing in being a South African.

My husband was travelling with me for the first time in India. After almost three weeks exploring other parts of south India and meeting people that have been significant to me over the 11 years of coming to India, we arrived in Kochi five days ahead of the exams and conference so that we could explore together. After a brief concern with the airport being closed for a few hours when one of the dam’s shutters were opened, we arrived with no problem later that evening and had a wonderful five days exploring Fort Kochi and doing a trip on the beautiful backwaters.

And then the rains returned…..

So many things stand out for me now as I reflect on the experiences of those next four days. The conference organisers were flexible to consider, moment by moment, what the best decisions were – rearranging workshops, and ultimately deciding to end the conference one day earlier. What a strong and compassionate team they were! There was a balance of enabling those presenters and participants who had been able to get there, to still experience deep moments of connection and learning, as well as sensibly considering the safety of people. At the same time there was always the concern for the people who had lost everything – the generous donation of money that was collected to support relief efforts was heartening.





A home under water in the floods a bit north of Kochi

Adrienne Lee’s keynote address highlighted for me the balance of autonomy and homonomy. I see Berne’s (1964) initial emphasis on autonomy as a gift to people striving to find their voice within families and systems of oppression. But autonomy alone is not enough – it can separate and divide and become all about ‘me.’ Angyl (1972) in Salters (2011) wrote about homonomy – the need for interconnectedness within and between each person’s autonomy. In South Africa we have the concept of ‘Ubuntu’ – the concept that a person is a person through other people. My own spiritual journey at present is being powerfully impacted by the writings of Dr Cynthia Bourgeault (2016) who speaks about non-duality. This is a different way of viewing the world – it takes away the subject-object way of seeing people and ideologies and moves to living from the experience of oneness that mystical expressions of many faiths, speak about. For example, in Christianity Jesus said: ‘The Father and I are one’ (John 10:30)

This sense of homonomy and non-duality was powerfully lived out during those days in Kochi. As people from outside of India were anxious about how they would return to their homes and families, the conference team and local participants went out of their way to source different travel options and make wise decisions about the planned conference events.

The experience challenged me as a white South African who comes from a privileged background. It brought back some of the colonial elements of living in a society where I have more means and privilege than others and so can make different choices. My Indian friends, with whom we would be staying for a few days back in Bangalore, initially suggested that an overnight train was a safe option. But we were only able to be on a waiting list. And my fantasy of the challenges of a twelve to fourteen hour journey on a train began to loom large. A different plan was to travel by road to Trivandrum and then book a new flight from there. I spent some time thinking deeply about the choices I made. If I took what seemed like the easier option and booked a new flight, was that betraying my friends who had chosen the more economical option? In a situation of crisis, was this coming from an I’m OK, You’re not OK attitude? What message was I sending about homonomy and interconnectedness if I chose the easier option?

As it happened, my friends also decided to do the road trip and flight from Trivandrum. and so we were able to share in that experience together.

Another poignant moment was saying goodbye to one of my SA colleagues who had chosen to leave on the Saturday, while we chose to leave on the Sunday. As we hugged goodbye we wished each other well and the message to each other was ‘Stay safe’ A few days ago we met up in South Africa and I realised the power of the South African sense of belonging as we once again hugged each other hello and I felt the tears of relief flowing. It was a powerful confirmation of my roots in South Africa, the country of my birth, despite the challenges in our country – that strong sense of belonging in this land.

I know that one of my injunctions has been ‘Don’t belong’ and my eighteen year journey with TA has in so many ways offered powerful permission to belong in a very deep way. The experience in Kochi enabled me once again to deepen this sense of belonging – with my Indian friends and international TA colleagues, and with my fellow South Africans and my homeland – what a gift!












The Namaste exercise we did at the end of the keynote from Adrienne Lee


Berne, E. (1964) Games People Play Penguin Books
Bourgeault, C (2016) The Heart of Centering Prayer – Nondual Christianity in Theory and Practice Shambala. Boulder
Salters, D (2011) Transactional analysis and Spiral Dynamics The Transactional Analysis Journal, 41, 265-276